Monday, July 19, 2010

Passionate or Winging it?

I think this is an interesting read:

http://blog.limkitsiang.com/2010/07/19/najib%e2%80%99s-ill-disciplined-leadership/

Why? The way it is written is very entertaining. I cannot help myself but smile. It ends with a big bang – Zee Avi lyrics to the song Kantoi.

I have to watch more ucapan from Najib. As a leader he should always be prepared and work long hours to make sure all the ucapan and the things he says is meaningful. I am a little taken aback that he does not easily form a sentence during his meetings or gatherings. How does a leader gets his message across if he is unable to explain himself clearly? Mind boggling. It boils down to good work ethics, discipline and passion.

Does he have that? I know for sure he has a passion for FB and Twitter….. :-)

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Are you truly happy?

I still do envy other people’s life at times. A bad habit indeed.

In the beginning,  there is always a need to convince myself that they also have their own problems, that they have deep and dark secrets, that they are putting up a happy face and that they are not as happy as they seem. This thoughts are to console my own insecurity.

Now I look at my own life and just visualize how wonderful my life is comparing to my own life before. Other people’s life are not my benchmark. I have learned that I cannot be someone else but I can be better than I was before. I have realize that I cannot compare my life with others. The triumph, success and wealth are for us to define and evaluate.

I can be rich yet unhappy….but then what is rich anyway?

I can be successful yet unfulfilled….what is being successful means anyway?

I can be popular yet alone…so what is good being popular anyway?

It has occurred to me that if I could just see my life based on my own life, I’d see things differently. If I keep looking over the fence and see what others have, I would never ever be truly happy.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Berbakti kepada ibu bapa

Hadis riwayat Abu Hurairah ra., ia berkata:
Seseorang datang menghadap Rasulullah saw. dan bertanya: Siapakah manusia yang paling berhak untuk aku pergauli dengan baik? Rasulullah saw. menjawab: Ibumu. Dia bertanya lagi: Kemudian siapa? Rasulullah saw. menjawab: Kemudian ibumu. Dia bertanya lagi: Kemudian siapa? Rasulullah saw. menjawab: Kemudian ibumu. Dia bertanya lagi: Kemudian siapa? Rasulullah saw. menjawab lagi: Kemudian ayahmu.

I lost my mom when I was nearly 2 years old and then lost my father at 13. I have always been full of envy of my friends. In my eyes, they have everything even if they are poor. I was poor and without parents. I was beyond poor.

As I grow older I notice that many of the people around me has many relationship issues with their parents. There are many who has even severed all ties with their parents. It still boggles my mind that anyone could even do that to their parents.

In Islam, we place our mothers high up in the hierarchy of respect. Mothers are women who gave birth, care for us and guide us to who we are. Most importantly, the willingness, the hardships, the pain and the sacrifices they made to carry us for 9 months before we are born. These are some of the fundamentals for us as children to unconditionally love and respect them.

Many of us do not understand how to differentiate our Mom - a mother and a Muslim. As a Muslim, children has the responsibility to respect, do good and take care of their Mother. They are in many ways not responsible to what their Mothers are in the eyes of Allah. If a Mother is not following the teachings of Islam, children could give a kind reminder to their Mothers and never give up in helping them to practice the religion. But a child should never abandoned a Mother because of that. The responsibility as a child remains even if the mother is a thief, a drug addict or a prostitute.

The sins of a mother is with Allah not with us.

Many of us have also forgotten our own responsibility when we get married. There are many women who becomes the barrier between their husband and the mother in law. They are either ignorant or purposely keep their husbands from being responsible to their own mother. Women must be aware that 3 top responsibilities of a man is to their Mother. A womens first responsibility is to their husband.

It is sad that many of us choose to severe relationships with our parents and force our husbands to also fall short of their responsibility as a son. It is hard to do because we are individuals first and we have our own habits, behaviours and preferred choices which may not be linked to what our religion teaches. Maybe time will change and we will realize the change we need to make.


Wallahualam.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

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"Unless you try to do something beyond what you have mastered, you will never grow." ~ C.R. Lawton


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