Life Happiness

Free your heart from hatred - forgive
Free your mind from worries - most never happen
Live simply and appreciate what you have
Give more
Expect less.

Stephen Covey

Nura, Sent via BlackBerry from Maxis

4 Core Fundamentals of Trust

I have just learned that the 4 core fundamentals of trust is are Integrity, Intent, Capabilities and Result. Integrity and intent makes up the character while capabilities and result demonstrate the competent criteria. It is important to demonstrate both character and competence to receive trust.

I have used integrity in my QA related activity and responsibility all the time. This exposure on trust fundamentals have made me realized that I may have overuse and misunderstood the word. What is Integrity? I have always linked integrity with strict adherence to work ethics that refers to performing the job as per instruction and ensure to achieve the target set successfully. Integrity goes beyond that. It is not just the act of being truthful or honest. The state of integrity is where truthfulness, honesty and respect are evident consistently. Honesty may not be evident at times as it is possible the person do not believe in the matter on hand. Some matters still require implementation because of law, company policy or even customer requirements. The key point of integrity is to consistently do the job as per required all the time. There is no compromise along the way. There are test carry out by some business to look into the integrity of their employees or newly joined employees. These tests usually link more to honesty. Integrity plays an integral part of a person’s character and without this behavior; an employer may need to manage more misconduct and performance problem at work.

Intent is another crucial part of character. It is an act of planning and demonstration of desire to act. The act here refers to various acts – the act to perform an activity effectively, the act of not fulfilling a target and the act to fail any given task. The intent will define the character of the person. The preferred intent is where the person has a positive intent to fulfilling the requirement. Combined intent with integrity, the character of a person shall decide on the first portion of trustworthiness. With a strong positive intent and high integrity, a person shall be more trusted to given tougher responsibility and excel in their career smoothly.

The second part of trust is competent. Competent consists of capabilities and results. Capabilities of an individual vary based on knowledge and training. The higher the capability, the better a person can demonstrate the ability to carry out tasks and targets set for them. Results produced from their day-to-day activity will reflect their performance. Both will contribute towards the competent level of a person.

The above 4 core fundamentals of trust will have to be demonstrated to achieve a workplace which are more trusting, honest, fill with high performers and thrust the team to do better all the time consistently.

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Today I am testing my update from my bb bold.

Today I have a job as an Idol judge. Not really nervous as I am confident I will be a fair judge. I do hope the committee has done their best to prepare so there will be no glitches during the participants performance.

I am worried about their song choices as they are rather old songs. I will do my best to concentrate and judge their performance objectively.
Good luck to the idol participants!

Nura, Sent via BlackBerry from Maxis

Self-Realization Before Motivating Others

Last weekend there was a training to learn on how to become a master motivator. By the end of the first day, a realization dawns that there are many things still missing in the way I motivate people.

It is uncomfortable and uneasy to make a self-realization at times. Learning to bow to the fact that we have flaws and challenge ourselves to change is not simple and straightforward. We have to learn to deal with the realization and move on as fast as possible to prevent the need to procrastinate change. Dealing with change takes a lot of mental effort and I find that it does not become easier. The effort differs.

The biggest challenge for me is to be able to change differently when focusing on my job and my personal life. It is easier to change when it comes to people at work. Focus is not extremely personal yet personal enough to make the change smooth and effective. I can think of things clearly, focus on each individual needs effectively and make a realization on what I should do to change to fit these. In my personal life, it gets complicated. It is easier on the immediate family but tougher as it goes beyond. For now, my realization has led me back to the fact that I am not responsible for them directly therefore there is very little need to have a motivated relationship. I may be wrong, for now it shall stay that way.

The few things I have realized about motivating others:
i. Being Honest
To motivate others, honesty is very crucial. Being honest will relate to whatever you believe in when trying to boost the person’s morale. Without this, the words use will not be believable and ridiculed.
ii. Trust
Honesty is part of the act to be trusted. Never ever, make promises you cannot keep and always trust first to be trusted. This will motivate others as they actually see you as someone they could turn to and believe in. The ability to trust others does not come easy for some. This hinders the motivation process. The person must be trusted wholeheartedly to finally get the result you want.
iii. Self-realization
In order to make a difference in another person, a self-realization is important. The change in own self is important to create a believable conversation. Promoting change requires first a change in our self.
iv. Change
A self-realization does not work if there is no action taken. By identifying the flaws and improvements required to change in oneself, it will reflect that change is possible to the person we are going to motivate. Without this personal change, the behavior during motivation session will not be so effective.

In view of the above, there is a lot of mental work and preparation for the motivator in making. In order to be a motivator, the knowledge alone is not enough; to create an environment of motivation, there is a need to become a coach, a leader and a team player.

Friendship

When I was younger
I felt the world is no big deal
I was strong
I was driven
I was determined
I do not need anyone

As I grow older
I experience
Anger
Deception
Dishonesty
Greed
Jealousy
Disgust
Love
Trust
And Friendship

Friendship reminds me of you
A friend who tolerate my immaturity
A friend who was there as I learn humility
A friend who lends her shoulder
When I lost in the battle of love
You were there to lift my spirit
Made me feel I had wings to live my life

Today my friend,
Know that I would lend you my shoulder
Know that I see you as a great Mom
Know that you are loved in so many ways
By your beautiful children
Wonderful husband
Circle of friends
And me.


For my friend Zaleha Daud
Nura
30th April 2010

I Am My Mother's Daughter

She passed away in October 1967. Her name was Rabiah Bt Hussein. She was my mother. I was told I called her Mama.

She was a beautiful woman with a sweet smile. She was active when she was younger and went to Kuala Lumpur to seek adventure and a better life. This was where she met my father, Ahmad Bin Rasol who was then a policeman.

They fell in love, got married and had my little brother and me. She loves crafting, make her own clothes and even handbags. I wish there was more to the story. There is none. All about her childhood, her schooldays, he adult life, her marriage....is buried with my grandmother and my father.

My grandmother does not talk much about her, there's too much sadness and regrets. My father NEVER talks about my mother at all. Underneath the well built body and the policeman courage, he just cannot go into details of his relationship with my mother. This was evident when he passed away on 31st July 1979. My stepmother told us that she will not betray her promise to my father - My father wants to be buried beside my mother and she will honor that promise. At 13, I did not comprehend the importance of that promise and what it represented. My father wants to be near my mother after death, to finally be together with her again.

I would give anything for a chance to know her, to remember her embrace, to remember her voice, to feel her face and to hold her hands. I wish she is here with me when I am sad and has no one to turn to. I hope I have made her proud and fulfill the dreams she has for me. I hope I am a good mother to my children for her. I am my Mother's daughter.

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الْحِسَابُ

"Rabbanaghfir Lii Wa Li Waalidayya Wa Lil Mu'miniina Yauma Yaquumul-hisaab"

"Ya Tuhan kami, beri ampunlah aku dan kedua ibubapaku dan sekalian orang-orang mukmin pada hari terjadinya hisab (hari kiamat)"
"O our Lord! And forgive me, and my parents, and all the Muslims on the day when the account will be established."
[Ibrahim 14:41]


I love you, Mama.

11th may 2010, 9:00pm

Nura's birthday

How can you not love friends like this?

New Quote by Me...

Who is the most important person in your life today? Have you done anything at all to make the person happy and feel appreciated? Wake up and smell the air...bau taik ke bau bunga?
- Nura Ahmad -

2nd May 2010
12:25nn