Self-Realization Before Motivating Others

Last weekend there was a training to learn on how to become a master motivator. By the end of the first day, a realization dawns that there are many things still missing in the way I motivate people.

It is uncomfortable and uneasy to make a self-realization at times. Learning to bow to the fact that we have flaws and challenge ourselves to change is not simple and straightforward. We have to learn to deal with the realization and move on as fast as possible to prevent the need to procrastinate change. Dealing with change takes a lot of mental effort and I find that it does not become easier. The effort differs.

The biggest challenge for me is to be able to change differently when focusing on my job and my personal life. It is easier to change when it comes to people at work. Focus is not extremely personal yet personal enough to make the change smooth and effective. I can think of things clearly, focus on each individual needs effectively and make a realization on what I should do to change to fit these. In my personal life, it gets complicated. It is easier on the immediate family but tougher as it goes beyond. For now, my realization has led me back to the fact that I am not responsible for them directly therefore there is very little need to have a motivated relationship. I may be wrong, for now it shall stay that way.

The few things I have realized about motivating others:
i. Being Honest
To motivate others, honesty is very crucial. Being honest will relate to whatever you believe in when trying to boost the person’s morale. Without this, the words use will not be believable and ridiculed.
ii. Trust
Honesty is part of the act to be trusted. Never ever, make promises you cannot keep and always trust first to be trusted. This will motivate others as they actually see you as someone they could turn to and believe in. The ability to trust others does not come easy for some. This hinders the motivation process. The person must be trusted wholeheartedly to finally get the result you want.
iii. Self-realization
In order to make a difference in another person, a self-realization is important. The change in own self is important to create a believable conversation. Promoting change requires first a change in our self.
iv. Change
A self-realization does not work if there is no action taken. By identifying the flaws and improvements required to change in oneself, it will reflect that change is possible to the person we are going to motivate. Without this personal change, the behavior during motivation session will not be so effective.

In view of the above, there is a lot of mental work and preparation for the motivator in making. In order to be a motivator, the knowledge alone is not enough; to create an environment of motivation, there is a need to become a coach, a leader and a team player.